When I think about why I became a hair and make a artist I can come up with all the obvious things such as, I like being creative and using products to enhance people's features, which is true. But when I look into it a little bit deeper and look into why I chose this element of my career, and what I get out of it, it stems back to maybe me not feeling good enough through my teens and early adult life.
 I, like lots of others, constantly compared myself to other people.
This may sound like a bit of a sob story but it's really not. It's just a way of me showing you a different side to me, and explaining that although I may come across as light hearted and chilled, that actually, just like a lot of people there is a past and there has been hurt in my life. As for any teenager, there is a lot of pressures to look, be and act a certain way. And although my parents brought me up to be as secure as possible, I, like lots of others, constantly compared myself to other people. I grew up thinking if I look like that they'd like me. If I act like that they'd like me, if I don't say that they'll like me. If I listen to this music, they're like me.
I was incredibly shy at school and barely had any friends, and after school I was bullied in the less obvious ways.
I was incredibly shy at school and barely had any friends, and after school I was bullied in the less obvious ways. Told by "friends" my laugh was annoying, or what I said was stupid, or that what I wore looked silly. Which actually when I say it like that, it is obvious bulling really. People poking at you to make themselves feel better regardless of whether they're a "friend" or not is still bullying and it still has a dramatic affect on your self esteem. I also had a long term boyfriend who put me down in lots of subtle ways, which would now be classed as emotional abuse. Crazy when I look back at it.
What really helps me, is helping you.
Moving forward though, to a fantastic husband, some wonderful true friends and a daughter to become a role model for, the one thing that I've learned in the last 5 years or so with going full-time into weddings is that I'm not the only one that felt, or can feel like that sometimes. What really helps me, is helping you. Realising that other people have insecurities and their own pasts. They also want to try and do the right thing by other people and constantly need reassurance. I'm not alone.
I've definitely got better with this over time and I'm not always chasing the next bit of praise or acceptance that I'm good enough, but when I know that I've made someone else feel secure and confident and happy, it chips away at that doubt that I am a good person. I am the right person and I am making a difference.Â
The other thing that's helped me over the last few years is a slightly more holistic approach with alternative therapies. I've always enjoyed massages and during my IVF I had reflexology. The calming nature of these treatments made a huge difference to how I felt internally and externally, so 6 years ago, I decided to train in both myself, and it's something I bring into my services when I can. Whether it be a relaxing facial, helping you to breathe on your wedding morning when it all gets a bit too much or giving you that little crystal to pop in your handbag to keep you calm. Things that help me, I want to share, in the hope that they help you too. It's not something I've really mentioned much in the past but I think I'll start to.
So really the reason I offer bridal hair and makeup is to genuinely make you feel good
So really the reason I offer bridal hair and makeup is to genuinely make you feel good because ultimately it then makes me feel good. I want you to know that what you want to look like, how you want to wear your hair, what dress you feel amazing in, that's ok. Think what you think and do what you do, all because that's what you want to do. It's your wedding day and there's no one to impress but you. It's no one else's day. Yours and your partners and that's all that matters. It's okay to be you.Â
Through my wedding business it's made me realise it's okay to be me too. People book ME because they want ME there on their wedding morning, looking after them. That is a huge huge compliment.
I don't want you to change who you are, because I always felt like I had to change me. I'm finally embracing who I am, and I want you to do the same.
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